“Don’t remind me!”
Why do so many people dread their birthdays? What are they afraid of? Getting another year older? Oh no! What a crime! Do you know how many people wish that they had another birthday, but aren’t given that opportunity? You don’t know, because you can’t ask a person who died. I know that sounds harsh, but it’s the truth. If you wake up on the anniversary of your birth (aka birthday), then you have marked another 365 days on this planet. How cool is that?
At least I think so; and I should know. My birthday is right around the corner. For all of you curious astrologers, I’m an Aries, and I fit the description very well! In my circle of family and friends, this is a very popular time for birthdays. Why? Well, because summer months consist of vacations and relaxation. And if you count backwards, these April babies were conceived in the summer. That’s just a fun fact for you to think about. You’re welcome!
Just like every other annual event, such as New Year’s Day or a wedding anniversary, I reflect on the previous year. What did I do to better myself physically and mentally? Which people, events, or unforeseen circumstances impacted my life the most this past year? Were they blessings or lessons learned? What do I want to change or continue in the next 365 days? Remember the saying, “One day at a time.” It really does work. Don’t give up on your goals because you “messed up” on 7, 60, or 100 of those days. If all goes well, you’ll be given another day to make it better.
Why are people afraid to get older? Are you? Why? Wrinkles? Gray hair? Declining health (which you may have some control over now)? Finances? Losing family and friends? Loneliness?
If you don’t like the way something is, then change it to the best of your ability. If you can’t eliminate it, then alter it. Or change your reaction to it. Whatever it is, look for the solutions that will bring you the most happiness and then act on it!
29 YEARS OLD
“I’m 29 again.”
Really? Why 29? Why not 16? At least, you could drive around town and not have to worry about a mortgage, rent, credit card bills, student loans, childcare, or your credit score. You also had 1-2 years before you had to think of the “real world.” Oh, the life!
I get it though; age 29 stops you from entering the next decade. I, on the other hand, wanted to run away from 29 as fast as possible. It was definitely not my prime year to repeat; it was more of a “learning year.” Seriously though, why are people afraid of saying THE NUMBER? What’s funny for me is that the older I get, the more I forget my actual age. Let’s face it, after age 21, milestone birthdays end with a 0 in your age.
I will proudly turn 47 years old this coming week. Oh no, my real age has been revealed! All of my movie roles have disappeared! I never really had any in the first place. Lucky for me, educators generally have a choice to retire, rather than being told that we’re too old to make a difference anymore. An added bonus is that age should not affect my next life goal of becoming a published author. People write at all ages! I consider myself very fortunate.
I am currently:
46 years old
Getting closer to 50
A few years from half-a-century
BIRTHDAY BLESSINGS & GOALS
Either way, I look at my birthdays as a blessing. Each one gives me the opportunity to reset my life timer to 365 days and push forward with new and improved goals, as well as celebrating new events. Depending on the year, such events may include births, weddings, graduations, or travel plans.
What are you looking forward to next year? How do your new birthday goals relate to these events? Is your goal as simple as being a better person? The word “better” could include healthier, more active, kinder, less critical, more empathetic, forgiving, present, and accessible. Maybe being more disciplined with your food choices, fitness routine, “Me Time,” or studies are essential to meeting your new birthday goals. Whatever your vision is, don’t waste any more time. Set your goals. Goals = Purpose
Lastly, I want to address birthday celebrations. Don’t forget to acknowledge this momentous event. If others want to celebrate you, then let them. If you’re alone during this time, then find something that’ll make your heart smile (favorite meal, dessert, wine, activity).
For the most part, I really like attending birthday celebrations, large and small. It gives me a great “excuse” to reserve time in my busy life to get together with others to laugh and reminisce. Whether it’s a birthday celebration for me, or someone that I care about, I love seeing groups of people gather and enjoy each other’s company. It’s usually a time to eat good food, delicious desserts and/or drink your favorite beverage too!
Celebrate your birth! Celebrate the passage through each phase of your life, thus far. Celebrate that you have been given another day, another year. Whenever that special day is for you, let me be the first to say HAPPY BIRTHDAY, and whatever you do, don’t forget to celebrate you! So, the next time someone says “Happy Birthday!” Say “Thank you.”
“How old would you be in you didn’t know how old you was?” ~Satchel Paige
“You don’t stop laughing because you grow old; you grow old because you stop laughing.” ~George Bernard Shaw